From The Inside Out Magazine: Book Review

This month Therese's book, Days Go By, Not Love was highlighted in the holistic E- monthly publication From The Inside Out Magazine; dedicated to an expanding awareness that will support the integration of the mind, body, emotions and soul http://www.fromtheinsideoutmag.com/. Here you will find articles, interviews, art, music, poetry and community news supporting all those seeking personal development and spiritual growth starting from the inside then expanding out. From The Inside Out Magazine aims to give their reader’s access to information that will allow them to actualize their spiritual consciousness and human potential, through personal wellness. While conscious of a higher purpose in our lives, we also want to remain well grounded, acknowledging the need to be productive on this physical plane. From The Inside Out Magazine seeks to contribute to the growth of humanity in coming to understand that we are all connected. We believe we all have the power to make a difference by expanding our own perceptions and beliefs.

Be sure to read Therese’s book review by visiting: http://fromtheinsideoutmag.com/issue/feb-2011/article/days-go-by-not-love-a-beautiful-journey-of-change

Change Your Life...Now!

Welcome to a new editorial series called: Change Your Life…Now!

This editorial series is written to help, inspire, guide and motivate everyone from all walks of life to face their challenges, identify barriers, discover miracles and find their true happiness while continuing their quest for emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, invites you to share your personal stories, provide insight from past or present experiences and most importantly engage with those who are struggling with everyday life situations. Topics range from: loneliness, heartache, depression, lack of hope, longing for love, battling addictions, abuse, domestic violence and/or other life-challenging situations that can take away from one’s happiness and well-being.

Get ready for a spiritually uplifting and inspirational journey as Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, helps you and others heal from your past and love who you are while showing you the steps to take to finding true happiness.

Query & Answer Forum:

Query:

"Lets see it started last year. I lost my job, then I got sick, then my niece died, then I got sick, then I filed bankruptcy and lost my car, then my best friend betrayed me, and last but not least my boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me on Saturday. So if anyone needs a change right now it’s me. I would love help in changing how I feel right now."

- Aimee B. Atlanta, GA

Answer:

Aimee,

First I would like to say that I am sorry for your loss with your niece’s passing. Now, you need to remember that because she has past, does not me that she is not here anymore. She is a person of creativity and spunk and she is happy where she is right now. She shows you signs that she is with you so keep a good look out for them and do not put them aside with thinking that it is your imagination. You can speak to her and know that she can hear you and she can reply to you with messages and signs.

With your job…you need to know that the door to your job has closed because it was time for a new door to open in your life. When it is time for something to change in your life and you need to go in a new direction…situations that seem to be hard actually are a blessing…it is just hard to see at that moment.

With your illness, it is because you are stressed and do not know how to handle hardships very well. If you look at the sequence of what you have written it shows you that you are getting sick in emotional moments. You lost your job and you got sick. You have the loss your niece and you got sick. Learn to be stronger in situations and understand that these situations are occurring because it is time for them to arise.

With regards to your best friend betraying you, it was for you to see that your friend was not the friend you thought you had. To open your eyes to see that your friend was not the person you should be having in your life…for many reasons as you should know. When you are not around good people and you are not being true to yourself and not seeing your actions hardships do come into play. So focus on you, what you are doing in your life, and be around more positive people.

As to your boyfriend breaking up with you…look at it as a positive situation. Did you ever think that you have someone better getting ready to walk into your life and with you being with someone who does not appreciate you can take that opportunity away? So again, it can be a good thing and in your case with your relationship, it was.

Read your second to last sentence. “So if anyone needs a change right now it’s me.” Now look at everything you have written….do you not see that you are getting your change. So you see Aimee, it is not as bad as you are feeling with these awful emotions that are stirring inside of you. Look at your life and see what you need to change within you and your life. Work on you and watch the rest fall into place.

Try and find the reasons and the positive in your hardships. Look at yourself and be honest. Be willing to be strong and correct issues that need to be corrected. Know that you have the power to accomplish this and be happy.

You can do it!

Therese

Change Your Life...Now!

Welcome to a new editorial series called: Change Your Life…Now!

This editorial series is written to help, inspire, guide and motivate everyone from all walks of life to face their challenges, identify barriers, discover miracles and find their true happiness while continuing their quest for emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, invites you to share your personal stories, provide insight from past or present experiences and most importantly engage with those who are struggling with everyday life situations. Topics range from: loneliness, heartache, depression, lack of hope, longing for love, battling addictions, abuse, domestic violence and/or other life-challenging situations that can take away from one’s happiness and well-being.

Get ready for a spiritually uplifting and inspirational journey as Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, helps you and others heal from your past and love who you are while showing you the steps to take to finding true happiness.

Query & Answer Forum:

Query:

“There are a few caveats in play for me. I’ve recently moved back to the east coast (from California) to live with my boyfriend and blend our families. Our relationship has fizzled out very quickly and it feels like were just roommates with kids. We’re close but not intimate. I feel like I’m just here to replace his wife and the issues were having are the same that he says ended his marriage. I’m 42 with 2 children 4 and 17. I’ve never been married.

I am working on mustering up the energy to find a job. I lost my business - I’ve been self-employed for 10+ years. Again, living on the east coast is unfamiliar and I don’t have any contacts. I’m out of my comfort zone: struggle with feeling unemployable, then yesterday my bank accounts were just frozen and emptied because of a debt I’ve been unable to pay. I have so many desires and I gave them all up for what I believed to be stability and love when what I really feel is imprisoned and unable to stand on my own two feet.  For years I’ve depended on other people to support me and my children. I believe my fear of success and the state of lack that I always seem to be in stems from childhood beliefs, I mean, of course it does. I’ve been working on them for years and still hit these walls that knock me off course. I feel very alone in my spiritual beliefs. I don’t have anyone to talk to or work with to really deal with and overcome this lesson. I know there will always be more. It is my will and intention to live a higher life yet I’m at this wall and can’t stop crying. My addiction - struggle - it feels horribly normal.”

- Pamela L., Paramus, NJ

Answer:

Pamela,

Regarding your relationship, your feelings are on track. You are seeing truth at its finest. Blending families in a relationship takes time and an adjustment period. However, when you are no longer being intimate you need to be honest with yourself that something is wrong. When you have the closeness but not the expression of intimacy you cannot turn your head and acknowledge that there are feelings not being said. You need to understand that when you are dealing with the same problems that ended his marriage – these issues lie within him. When you are noticing the changes you are seeing, you have to really be strong and think to yourself…is this road going to where he once was (to an end of a relationship)? By not facing the facts that you are living, will only keep you at misery with tears.

You need to become strong and take the steps that are in your soul, so you may leave your imprisonment and to show you that you are capable of standing on your own two feet. Let your children be your strength, let your happiness motivate you and bring back your desire so you may find your way to peace.

If you do not go back to California, then make this unfamiliar place…familiar. You need to have faith in yourself that you can make these changes that you desire. If you have struggles with that, then show yourself and your children that you can make those steps that take courage. Do not let your financial situation pin you down and control your life. Know that you can overcome this.

Never give up your desires, if you do not want others to support you any longer than just know that time can change something you do not want to something you always wanted. Do not let fear take control of you and hold you back from success. Know that you have the power to change those childhood beliefs into something beautiful. This journey will be hard for you, but know that it will be a journey of knowledge, wisdom and growth for you and your children. When you hit those walls that take you off course, stand up and walk back to the directions you wish to go.

Regarding your spiritual beliefs, you are never alone. Heaven is always with you, even if you cannot see your angels or loved ones with the naked eye. Talk to them more and ask them for help. Ask a little at a time, so you may see their answers. Believe me; they do hear you and they are here to help. So take their hand and let them lead the way. Watch for the event that comes up and look for the message of where you need to go with your life for you and your family.

When some feel that misery is normal, they need to go in another direction in life so they may heal and have happiness with love.

You can conquer this!

Therese

Change Your Life…Now!

Welcome to a new editorial series called: Change Your Life…Now!

This editorial series is written to help, inspire, guide and motivate everyone from all walks of life to face their challenges, identify barriers, discover miracles and find their true happiness while continuing their quest for emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, invites you to share your personal stories, provide insight from past or present experiences and most importantly engage with those who are struggling with everyday life situations. Topics range from: loneliness, heartache, depression, lack of hope, longing for love, battling addictions, abuse, domestic violence and/or other life-challenging situations that can take away from one’s happiness and well-being.

Get ready for a spiritually uplifting and inspirational journey as Author & Clairvoyant, Therese Benedict, helps you and others heal from your past and love who you are while showing you the steps to take to finding true happiness.

Query & Answer Forum:

Query:

“I am thrice divorced all bad cheating women, I struggle with loneliness and I am a single father with custody of my twin 7 year old sons. I have symptoms of depression. I am fearful of finding a new wife or girlfriend and having the same thing happen again. Almost every girlfriend I have had has cheated.”

Terry S. Lexington, Kentucky

Answer:

Terry,

When it comes to being with people who have cheated on you, they have made a very selfish decision to scare your heart for life. In addition, you carry pain, hurt, anger, self doubt and fear until you decide to heal from this pain you do not wish to carry. What you need to do is focus on you and your sons without the mind set of trying to find a relationship. Take a break from relationships and give yourself the attention you need to heal as much as you can. You do this by building your self esteem and learning that you are important and that it was not you who have made others do such a wrong action against someone. People who cheat only think of themselves and they commit these acts without having to carry the emotional pain that they are so willing to give. So understand even with these occurrences in your life, be happy that they are not in your life.

You want someone that you can love, that you can trust that they will love you the same without selfish acts of destruction. You need to come to the realization that you can be happy without a relationship. Love you and your sons the way you wish someone would love you. Build yourself up, replenish your confidence and start working on you and your family’s needs.

When you take several months with focus on your life, you find you again. When you are ready for a true relationship, you will feel that you are ready to take those steps without fear. You need to trust that God and his angels will bring you a better person in your life and when they do…take the time to get to know them before making a commitment. Learn of their past, morals, values and life experiences. Communicate with them so you may see deeper meanings of a person before any serious decisions are made regarding a relationship. By doing this you will feel safer before you give your heart once more.

Stay strong and be positive!

Therese